While we outwardly treasure such sayings as “don’t judge a book by its cover”, or “appearance is only skin deep”, physical appearance, and more likely the physiology of pheromones, typically drive inter-human attraction. Yet, there are notable exceptions, such as Marquis de Sade, or the fictional Svengali, who, by nature of their intelligence, or perhaps psychological prowess, obtain human relationships they may not otherwise by chemistry alone.

What is the nature of human attraction? Is it fleeting, as most anthropological evidence suggests? Or, quite simply a primal urge of procreation; survival of the species?

Does our conscious play any role at all, or should it? Those that identify with freewill would suppose they are making rational choices about what is in their best interests. Calvinism aside, which, ironically, is a choice to make or not, it seems attraction can take many forms. While initial physical (pheromones/chemistry) attraction may lead to certain steps, is it not the intercourse of intellect, spirit, soul if you like, that binds more indelibly?

For after the physical connectivity has exhausted (and it will by nature), there is but boredom…unless, the relationship includes sapiosexuality and its endless foreplay.

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